"I shall take no wife father no son" because they will not love, "because what is honor compared to a woman's arms or a child's smile?" Honor comes easy when there is no much price.
discipline means choices. when you say yes to a thing, you say no to many others.
the prize is the yes, and the price is the no.
But whether I am staying put or moving out, I am not running away, not if it's not purely for my own interest.